Since I have decided it’s time for me to transition from primarily a man to primarily a woman I decided to make it a bit more official at work. I have been wearing women’s clothes to the office for two months now with no major issue and it has help me adjust to it. So I decided to give my boss a letter. Quick summary
I am becoming the woman I have always also been. I’m happier and healthier. I’m looking forward to it. HRT when I start will have these few effects you as an employer may need to be aware, since a big part of my job involves swimming. I appreciate the support and understanding.
Later she comes up for coffee, I should point out that we have known each other for about 15 years or so and have a personal and professional relationship.
her: So your going for it?
me: Yup
her: Ok, cool. How does the spouse feel about it?
me: oh she is on board
her: she realises she will be living with a woman for the rest her life right?
me: yes
her: cool
me: the main thing to remember here is that its a slow process and I can stop or reverse hormones at anytime
her: why would someone stop?
me: because you start and realise it isn’t actually for you.
her: ok,
coworker comes in and looks at us: I’m just grabbing my lunch don’t want to get in whatever
me: oh I just told her I’m transitioning
coworker: sounds good
coworker leaves
me: worst case scenario I don’t care for it and I get some breasts
her (Key point here we have known each other a long time): So you want your own? are you it just isn’t because your a boob man?
me: No quite sure that isn’t just it.
her: ok
me: We can figure the details and pronouns later when I decide to change it up
her: oh, you know I can never remember that stuff
me: We will figure it out
Fin
So ya that’s done and it was anti climatic.
You work with good people that you can count on as friends and co-workers and you have a wife that understands you and loves you. Life is good
PS: What part of your job involves swimming?
The three months of water rescue training I do across the province. Some lifeguard training. Some swim instructor training. So 3 months a year.